Friday, April 05, 2013

Brother To Brother

Graham and me (and my toy cat), 1965

It has been a week off but cold and made colder by the passing of a brother, my brother, on Monday. I didn't think I would write about it here but it feels dishonest not to. We were not 'close'; he was seventeen when I was born, until then the youngest of three and he always said the smell of nappies made him leave home and follow our eldest brother into the Navy. I think he was only half-joking; replaced as the 'baby' by a real one, me. He was kind and funny and life-loving but the life-loving took its toll and now they are telling us too he had motor neurone disease - in hospital for months and in the last few weeks unable to eat, drink, swallow. There is no cure, so I suppose it is a fact that his death was a 'release'.

We were not close, he was seventeen when I was born; we didn't grow up together.

But he was funny and kind and life-loving and he was my big baby brother.

Sleep tight Gray x

The Searchers - 'Needles & Pins' (1964)

30 comments:

  1. Condolences to you Mr H and your brother's family.

    This living, it's not all fun and games, is it.

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  2. I was very determined to enjoy the first cold lager of spring for him on Tuesday, I can tell you.

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  3. You have my deepest condolences.

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  4. Oh man, sorry.

    Seventeen in 1965? I bet he had some fun.

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  5. Well it was 1965 in Dartmouth, Devon which wasn't exactly Chelsea, but yes...! He loved The Beatles, Kinks and Searchers and apparently when I was first home from hospital showed me a picture of the Fabs, naming each one for me, then a rugby ball.

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  6. Oh, so sorry to hear this. Condolences Davy.

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  7. Poignantly put, touchingly sad.

    Sorry mate.

    x

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  8. Oh davy.
    As the recipient of hundreds of messages of condolence in recent weeks, I should be well placed to pass across some words of wisdom!
    Sadly, it doesn't quite work like that.

    I love the photograph. Trust me, he will have been so very proud when baby davy came along. (Disappointed in your choice of mid-60s fashion, but still).

    He was funny and kind - we can ask for little else - and would have had great fun with you in the days before you can remember. That's for certain.

    May he rest in peace

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  9. so eloquent. all the best man.

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  10. Incidentally, I remember that sofa (leather back, fabric seat) and those cordoroy* cushions well. They lasted until 1975 when we moved into a Bovis Home in Torbay and Mum got 'all new'. I also remember Gray's copy of 'Help' leaning against the radiogram long, long after he'd 'gone to sea'. I've mentioned that before!

    *Mum had used the green cordoroy of same to make Graham a 'Beatles suit' for a fancy dress party. Not very Chelsea, as we've already mentioned.

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  11. Dickie - do you not, as you get older, think that 'funny and kind' are the best things anyone can say about anyone? I do. All the rest is arse. I hope you're doing OK companero.

    And cheers anto.

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  12. PS: Dickie, yes, my trousers are a fashion disaster aren't they?

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  13. That's sad news, Davy; condolences from my side as well, mate!

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  14. Bit late here. Sorry to hear about this Davy. My condolences.

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  15. Sorry mate, only just seen this. Sorry to hear this. X

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  16. funny and kind indeed. kind will do it. funny's a plus. go easy davy's bruv
    x

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  17. Sorry to hear this, Davy.
    Funny and kind people always make the world a much better place to live in, we should all strive for that.
    Lovely photo too, I love how Graham has a hold of your little foot..he looks very pleased to have a baby brother, despite the nappies.

    x

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  18. Oh I am so very sorry.

    I too love that photo. May he rest in peace.

    Thinking of you and yours x

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  19. Aw D...sorry. You offer so much to us all. Hope you are getting some peace as each day goes by. x

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  20. Thank you Tricia, that's kind x

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  21. The funeral took place last Friday - hence no post here that night. We're OK. We're all OK.

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